The Leading Killers of Intimacy
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Intimacy, physical and emotional closeness, can be tough to steer through. For both parties to feel the pleasures of an intimate relationship it takes commitment from both individuals. In your quest to improve intimacy in your relationship, be aware of the biggest intimacy killers and avoid them at all costs.
Dishonesty and Silence
Intimacy requires honesty and openness. To be close to someone you have to be willing to share and listen to what your partner has to share. Silence is not the always the best way to protect your partner from something that may hurt them. When you do this you are not allowing the relationship to grow or your partner to grow into your needs. Dishonesty is lethal and no matter what reason you may have for being dishonest it will come back to haunt you later and this can be fatal to your relationship.
Intimacy requires honesty and openness. To be close to someone you have to be willing to share and listen to what your partner has to share. Silence is not the always the best way to protect your partner from something that may hurt them. When you do this you are not allowing the relationship to grow or your partner to grow into your needs. Dishonesty is lethal and no matter what reason you may have for being dishonest it will come back to haunt you later and this can be fatal to your relationship.
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Lack of Trust
Dishonesty can lead to a lack of trust. Not good for any relationship! If you have had a reason from your past that keeps you from trusting you need to heal from that past. You must base your decision to trust someone on their actions not the actions of someone else you dealt with prior. Trust until there is reason not to.
Dishonesty can lead to a lack of trust. Not good for any relationship! If you have had a reason from your past that keeps you from trusting you need to heal from that past. You must base your decision to trust someone on their actions not the actions of someone else you dealt with prior. Trust until there is reason not to.
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Trying to Alter your Partner
Acceptance of yourself and your partner is a powerful indicator of love. Lacking acceptance of a person often leads to a need to control. This need to control will come off to your partner as trying to change them or a feeling of inadequacy. You don’t want to make your partner feel like you think you are better than he is or that he is not good enough for you.
Acceptance of yourself and your partner is a powerful indicator of love. Lacking acceptance of a person often leads to a need to control. This need to control will come off to your partner as trying to change them or a feeling of inadequacy. You don’t want to make your partner feel like you think you are better than he is or that he is not good enough for you.
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Inability to be Expressive with Your Feeling
You have heard said a million times! Communication is the key to any relationship. Your partner cannot read your mind so the only way to get what you need is to communicate. You have to express yourself and be open to your partner when he expresses himself or herself. If you suppress your feelings you are shutting your partner out leaving him/her to feeling confused as to what you want and eventually exhausted from trying to figure you out.
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Not listening to your partner’s needs/wants
For many people listening poses more of a challenge then talking. It is important to be a good listener with any relationship. One of the ways to acknowledge you are listening is to take the information given to you and act on it accordingly so that your partner doesn’t have to keep telling you the same thing over and over. This definitely gives the impression that you either aren’t listening to his needs or that you simply don’t care.
For many people listening poses more of a challenge then talking. It is important to be a good listener with any relationship. One of the ways to acknowledge you are listening is to take the information given to you and act on it accordingly so that your partner doesn’t have to keep telling you the same thing over and over. This definitely gives the impression that you either aren’t listening to his needs or that you simply don’t care.
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Being Self-absorbed
There has to be a balance between self and partner. This is the back bone of intimacy. It can’t be always about you or always about your partner. Taking into account the feeling, needs, and wants of another person is what a relationship is all about. Everything in your life has to now be shared with your partner. This includes decisions about finances, free time, kids, outings, vacations, careers, etc.
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Lack of Respect
Healthy intimacy in a relationship revolves around respect for yourself as well as your partner. You need to ensure also, that your actions warrant respect. Without respect a healthy relationship cannot thrive.
Healthy intimacy in a relationship revolves around respect for yourself as well as your partner. You need to ensure also, that your actions warrant respect. Without respect a healthy relationship cannot thrive.
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Imbalance of Power
A balance of power simply means that you both have the same say in all areas of your life together and that your needs and wants are both equally as important. You are both equal so don’t be on a power trip thinking that you are better or smarter or more successful and that is why you should have more say about things.
A balance of power simply means that you both have the same say in all areas of your life together and that your needs and wants are both equally as important. You are both equal so don’t be on a power trip thinking that you are better or smarter or more successful and that is why you should have more say about things.
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Unhealthy Arguments
Disagreements between couples are a normal and healthy part of a relationship. What is not healthy is allowing the disagreements to go unresolved, inflicting emotional and physical pain, and angry expressions that are not easily forgotten. A healthy relationship is one in which couples can quickly and painlessly bounce back after an argument, and can resolve their differences as soon as possible.
Disagreements between couples are a normal and healthy part of a relationship. What is not healthy is allowing the disagreements to go unresolved, inflicting emotional and physical pain, and angry expressions that are not easily forgotten. A healthy relationship is one in which couples can quickly and painlessly bounce back after an argument, and can resolve their differences as soon as possible.
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Absence of Touch
Touch is a feeling that is imperative to human nature. Although physical intimacy is just one part of total intimacy, it is important. Make it a point to hug, kiss, and experience sexual intimacy.
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Extreme Separateness
So many couples, after time, begin to live separate lives. Intimacy requires a couple spend time together and share in each other’s life, the good, the bad, the great and the sad. Put an end to the separateness and bring togetherness back into your relationship.
Relationships often start out with a lot of intimacy. Through life’s busy schedule and ups and downs it can be difficult for any couple to hang on to that intimacy. Love one another, spend time together, and share your dreams, your fears and your hopes. You can put this knowledge into action when you get your ex back.
Tomorrow is our last day and you are going to find out some great love making tips to learn and put into place. This is a great way to surprise your ex when you get back together and show them how much they mean to you when they see the effort you have taken to improve your love making skills. Be sure to share them with your partner so they too can give back as much as you are.
